set boundaries find peace by nedra glover tawwab

This is why no one wants to be around you.' Those have been very hurtful to me because this has thrown me into depression.

And when I've expressed my feelings, it's like, 'Oh, there you go again. And that's the key that we talk about- acceptance, right? I haven't been fully accepted for expressing my feelings. It's been very hard to have a relationship with her because she hasn't really fully accepted who I am. It's been with her and my father, actually, but with her more. It was something that maybe my parents did that made her feel that way, but it was something that I didn't ask for.Įileen: So throughout the years, this has been very conflicting. For some reason, she felt I was always the favorite, and she had an issue with that, but that was not my fault. I grew up in a family environment where I wasn't really accepted for who I was, being an emotional person and always hearing, 'There you go again.' And with my sister, it's always been that type of behavior towards me. It's a cycle that I've tried to work with, talking with her and even contributing to that behavior, because we grew up in a family dynamic where we wouldn't express our feelings or even accept one another. It's been a relationship that has been very toxic. Oprah: What about gaslighting? How many of you've been in a toxic forgiveness cycle that involved gaslighting? Eileen, talk to me about your relationship with your sister.Įileen: Oprah, it's been 55 years I've been trying to have a relationship with my sister.

Oprah and Nedra agreed-that could not be farther from the truth.Ībove, watch a clip of the conversation-in which the advice from Nedra resonated so deeply that Oprah couldn't help but call for an emphatic 'Drum roll!'-or keep scrolling to read what was shared. You're supposed to have a certain relationship with your sister,' even if it's toxic.

'We have been indoctrinated in our culture, in our society, that you're supposed to have a certain relationship with your mother. 'For some reason, she felt I was always the favorite, and she had an issue with that,' says Eileen, 'so throughout the years, this has been very conflicting.' Eileen goes on to say that she's never been able to fully express her feelings because when she did, she was belittled and told, 'This is why no one loves you.'Īs Eileen continued, Oprah interjected, acknowledged how hurt she was to hear the hardship this sibling rivalry had caused and spoke about the distorted way society views familial relationships. Twelve Insiders joined Oprah and Tawwab on camera, including Eileen, who said she’s spent more than 55 years trying to build a relationship with her sister. For “The Life You Want” Class on forgiveness, Oprah and Nedra Glover Tawwab, a relationship expert, therapist, and New York Times bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, offered sage advice on how to exit a toxic forgiveness cycle with a family member.

Set boundaries find peace by nedra glover tawwab